Respect is one of the building blocks of a good relationship. Unfortunately, it’s not something that some people give willingly, even if you think you have earned it.
The disrespect often leaves women wondering why they are not respected and yet they have been a good person.
Relationship expert Derrick Jaxn seeks to answer this age-old question and also caution women against putting up with disrespect because when someone deeply disrespects you, there is no coming back from that.
He advises women not to take the disrespect to heart because, “Just because he doesn’t respect you doesn’t mean that you are not respectable.”
Here are some reasons why your man will never respect you according to Jaxn:
Some men lack the capacity to respect
“This is because they do not value the people they have around them. This is because they position people who are of convenience to them,” says Jaxn.
He thinks you are not worth respecting
Some men think that you are simply not worth respect.
“He has identified you as someone he doesn’t need to respect. If he doesn’t respect you right now he will never respect you. Leave, because if you don’t, you will find yourself in a situation where it’s unfixable because it takes two to (make a relationship work)…Take your talents elsewhere,” advises Jaxn.
He gets exceptions without earning them
If you easily make him an exception to your rules, he will view it as an act of desperation. If you do things like break down your walls, rush into bed with him or give him money without him earning it, he will disrespect you.
You treat his unkept and kept promises the same
When there are no consequences for unkept promises or bad behaviour, disrespect will crop up.
If he says he will call at 9:00 p.m and doesn’t bother to call till the following day at 12 noon but you pick up and behave like you would normally behave if he kept his promises, disrespect will creep up. If he keeps crossing boundaries, getting away from that situation is the best option.
“Cut off someone who doesn’t align with your values,” Jaxn says.
If you keep giving chances, hearing out apologies and letting people walk all over you, you will get disrespected.
“Nip bad behaviour in the bud. Check bad behaviour at the door. The moment he gets disrespectful he is out. The moment he lies and disrespects you, he is is out,” Jaxn advises.
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