Getting a partner to call your own is one of the most challenging things to happen to anyone who’s serious in settling down. Sometimes you move around the world looking for ‘Mr Right’ but end up being frustrated after realizing that no man fits your desires.
For the longest time, Kenyan men have been accused of being unromantic. They are returning the favour by saying the Kenyan women do not love them they way they should be treated. You see Kenyan men have totally different ways they want their women to express love to them. Below are some things they secretly wish
1. S3x
Well, this had to be number one my dear sisters, well, this applies to married couples only though…hehehe. Let’s be real, husbands want to get down as many times as they can, so you have to be willing to do just that. However, they also need those unexpected kisses, hugs and cuddles too.
They don’t want to be the only one initiating things, they want you to make a move. They want you to make them feel sexually attractive too. Make a move! Talk about their expectations and be willing to try new things to spice things up behind closed doors.
2. Respect
Whether you are age mates or he is a few years or a lot older a man wants you to respect him. Respect they say is reciprocal, so if you want him to respect you, you must be willing to respect him too. Alongside the fact that a man is the head of the home, he wants you to treat him courteously!
Well, I know sometimes you are just pissed and you say things you don’t mean. I have done that a few times too but the moment I realize that I have blabbered nonsense, I apologize. He wants you to respect his friends and family too, so this goes beyond him. He wants you to treat the other people that matter to him well also.
3. Expression of Love
Men want you to show them that you love them, they want you to say it, act it and they also want you to tell others. It makes them happy that you feel that way about them and that you are committed to being in their lives and loving them. A little PDA doesn’t hurt anyone, hold hands, hug etc. Send random I love you texts, buy unexpected gifts, calling him pet names men want those things too, they might not say it but it warms their heart when you do it.
4. Appreciation
A man wants you to appreciate the efforts he is making, he doesn’t need you to complain all the time. He wants you to commend him, compliment him and encourage him to do much more. Appreciate the tiniest things, even if he buys you just a hair bun show gratitude. Let him know that you appreciate what he buys for the kids, your parents, your siblings etc. That will boost his ego and make him want to do more next time.
5. Understanding
In marriage, you have to understand your partners verbal and non-verbal communication. They call it love language, There are some days when men wake up and are unusually quiet, its best you try not to engage him in unnecessary banter. Understand his point of view when you are jointly making decisions, you might not necessarily agree 100% with everything but it’s only fair to endeavour to see things from his own perspective too.
6. Food
That thing about food being the way to a man’s heart? Girl, it’s so damn right! Look men don’t joke with food at all, especially Kenyan men, we shall not go to any specific tribe. You will always see the magical smile that surfaces when your man returns home and there’s a brand new pot of soup with some chapo or rice and chicken stew awaiting him, that, my friend, is a need that every good woman should meet.
7. Alone Time
No matter how much a man loves you, he would always want his alone time. He would want to watch the games, hang out and chill with the boys sometimes. Give him some space, don’t call him every minute while he is away, let him enjoy his time out and you should also do likewise. Don’t let marriage or relationship stop you from hanging out with your girls, your friends and family.