So you like a girl, and she kinda likes you too… but there’s this other guy she also likes.
This other guy is stepping up his game, because lately, she’s showing more interest to him.
At the same time, she’s been responding to your texts with less excitement… making you nervous that she’ll choose him over you.
How do you divert her attention back to you and away from the other guy?
In this article, I’m going to reveal in detail how to make a girl pick you over another guy… even if he’s better looking and richer than you.
You will win her over if you do these things.
Become Aware of Intense Irrational Feelings That Make You Weak and Unattractive
You might notice that when you start to REALLY like a girl, you get these intense feelings that make you obsess over the girl in your mind. They make you feel “in love.”
However, when you get these feelings, you drive women away with your behavior. So this is something you need to avoid.
To help you better understand this, I’ll break down some types of “weak” feelings we get with girls.
Let’s talk about being “needy.”
If you have a crush on a girl right now, you probably depend on her for positive emotions. You feel good whenever she is nice to you, but feel bad whenever she acts cold or doesn’t respond to your text.
It’s like you’ve turned into a “little boy” who needs validation to feel better.
But when you act like you depend on the woman for positive emotions… it manifests in your behavior and turns the girl off.
You really like this girl, and suddenly you notice you have competition. You notice another guy keeps talking to the girl you like, and he’s good at making her smile and giggle. This makes you jealous.
This is another feeling that weakens you inside. Why does this happen?
The reason is that when you are afraid of losing a girl, you get anxiety. But when you get into that state of mind, it always works against you. Women can smell that you care from a mile away, and they are instantly turned off.
Now it’s very likely the other guy will also get needy and jealous whenever you talk to the girl.
However, if he feels more “free from the outcome” than you, he will have the upper hand and the girl will choose him over you.
In other words, he will be able to generate positive emotions on his own… and not from validation the girl gives him. This will cause the girl to be affected by these positive emotions and she will become attracted to him.
Meanwhile, watching the guy flirt with your crush makes you feel like you are “losing her”… which is making you anxious… lowering your “state”… and STOPPING you from generating positive emotions that attract the girl.
Now this causes a lot of hurt and pain, so let’s dig deeper to understand why neediness weakens us so that we can avoid it in the future.
Why do we get these feelings?
The reason stems from having what is called a “Scarcity Mindset.”
Therefore, we need to…
Avoid Scarcity Thinking
When you have a scarcity mindset, you view the world as scarce
- Your reality is you have few options of women to choose from
- When a quality woman likes you, it’s a rare occurrence
- You feel that you need to take advantage of and “milk” every opportunity you get, because you won’t get another one in a long time
- You constantly filter what you say around women to avoid saying or doing something that will “offend” them
Scarcity is the mentality most men engage in. Because they’re stuck in it, they never get the kind of women they want in their lives.
It’s something we all suffered from when we got that first crush on a girl in high school.
How do we get out of scarcity?
Instead, shift gears from scarcity to ABUNDANCE.
Develop an Abundance Mindset
When you have abundance…
- You view the world has to have lots of options for women to choose from
- If you mess up with one of them it’s ok, there will be others
- You feel like you can behave freely around women because if one of them gets turned off by you, you will simply go to another since you don’t have fear of loss
- Competition over a woman isn’t even an issue. It doesn’t even register in your brain because you’ve got other options
Don’t have abundance yet, it’s ok. You are where you are at. Own it. And then start by recognizing that there are tons of options out there in the world.
Brainwash yourself with a “fake it till you make it” attitude.
Because if you remain stuck in scarcity, you start committing all these mistakes without even realizing it.
Here’s one I used to do all the time…
Avoid THIS “Romantic Mistake” That Leads to Rejection
This is a “romantic move” that nice guys make on their crush.
I call it the “Grand Romantic Gesture”
You see, most men have the idea making the bold romantic move will win the girl over, where in reality, attraction has more to do with the way you make her feel INSIDE when she’s around you.
Why Do We Think We NEED to Make the Bold Move?
The reason is that most men are unable to make beautiful women feel attraction with their personality, so they feel that to compensate, they need to make a bold romantic move to tip the scales in their favor.
However, you are probably not the first guy to treat her in this manner.
Take that hottie you tried to win over, you are probably not first guy
to send her flowers in the hopes that the good deed would win her affection.
Hot, in-demand women deal with these “romantic” gestures ALL THE TIME.
When you’re new to dating, you feel like you get a crush on a girl every 5 minutes. You are easily prone to making romantic mistakes.
The good news is that this next principle of attraction helps you get girls, even if you’re a noob…
The Biggest Newbie Epiphany That Helps You Get Laid
Here’s a weird fact about female psychology that helps you out even if you’re a newbie with zero experience.
And it’s this…
If you think and act like you have options, women will still feel attraction, even if you’re still a 40 year old virgin living in your mom’s basement.
And that leads me to Secret #5…
The Behaviors That Make Women Feel Attraction is the Way You Would Act if You Got Laid All the Time
This is something most men don’t “get” because, in their brains, they have developed a flawed narrative of how they are supposed to attract women.
This “false story” of how to make a girl like us is something we get from the movies.
When the main character acts like a nice guy and makes a bold romantic move to get the girl we think “I’m going to copy that!”…
…but to our horror, it doesn’t work.
Romantic movies give you the idea that if you just show a girl how much you like her… if you let a girl know that she is the ONLY one in your heart… if you let her know that she is your princess, and you are the knight who fights in her honor…
…then somehow she’s going to realize this and magically become attracted to you.
But it doesn’t work.
Yet most guys fall for this… and I did too.
Until I learned the KEY to attraction.
In particular, I learned the specific behaviors that create attraction vs. those that DON’T… and it comes down to this…
Behaviors That Say “I Get Girls” vs. Behaviors That Say “I Never Get Girls”
Imagine how you’d act if you had more women in your life and getting laid wasn’t a problem
- You’d be indifferent to the outcome
- Your flirting would be precise and “on-point” due to all the practice
- You’d have the power of “pre-selection” on your side
- You wouldn’t jump at the chance to be a woman’s boyfriend right away, because you have lots of options and it would take you at least several months of seeing a woman to make that commitment
- You’d have an ecosystem of positive emotions so you wouldn’t depend on the girl for good feelings
- You wouldn’t put so much time and emotional energy into “getting girls” so you’d have all this time and energy to put into your lifestyle and career
Women instinctively become attracted to this type of attitude.
It’s in their DNA.
And because of it…
Women chase after the guy who acts like he has lots of options.
It turns out that this gives us another clue on how to make a girl pick you over another guy.
This is the secret KEY to pushing a woman’s attraction button:
A quality guy who gets lots of options acts in a very specific way.
- He doesn’t want anything serious right now.
- He doesn’t want to jump into a relationship with a woman right away.
- He never chases women to be their boyfriend.
Men who are great with women are loved by women BECAUSE they do these behaviors.
Which means that…
When you REPLICATE the behaviors of the guy who gets laid… you get the same RESULTS as the guy who gets laid.
This is how to make a girl pick you over another guy… even if you don’t have any experience.
And Here’s How to Use This Knowledge On the Girl You Like…
If the woman you’re talking to detects signals you send… that suggest you are a man who gets women… she will become attracted to you by “INSTINCT”… and she will have no choice in the matter.
That’s how you get the girl.
How do you send these signals?
- By being free from outcome
- By not needing to be in a relationship right away
- By being non-needy, non-jealous, and never clingy.
If you are able to send “HONEST SIGNALS” that you get lots of girls, without outright saying it…
… then she will instinctively CHASE.
And there’s something you should know about “chasing” that I’m about to reveal to you in Secret #6. It’s very important that you understand the following, because most people get it BACKWARDS…
Women Love the Chase, they Want to be the Ones Who Work to Win You Over
The girl that you like wants to be the one working to win you over. But you have to frame yourself as the prize. Framing yourself as the prize is how you make a girl pick you over another guy.
You becoming her boyfriend is the PRIZE she works to win.
When you want to be her boyfriend too soon, she loses attraction.
Because when you give it to them too fast, you act like a guy who never gets girls so he is desperate to have a girlfriend.
But, when you’re a man of many options…
- You don’t just commit to any girl.
- You want to be her lover, but not her boyfriend (at least not now)
- You suggest you want to sleep with her, but not get into a serious relationship you don’t hide that you want to sleep with her (it’s best that she knows this)
- You aren’t afraid of “losing” her, because you’ve got other options
- You aren’t afraid of stating your intent and offending her, because there are other girls
She wants to feel that she made you want to be her boyfriend She wants to go to her friends and say “How do I make her want to commit?”
Therefore, the key is to do things that make her put in the effort. Find out ways to get her to invest.
And as it turns out, there are specific behaviors you can do to get a woman to invest.