When it comes to pleasuring a woman before love making, many men often make a big mistake by focusing on the obvious hot spots that are known to arouse women.
However, lovemaking ought to involve creativity that leaves her feeling, yes, my guy really understands the game.
While you may give yourself pep talks before a lazy encounter or pat yourself on the back after a great time in bed, don’t be too smug about knowing what women want.
No matter the circumstances, most men tend to be eerily silent during the entire act. You may think that’s fine, but this makes your woman feel alienated. It makes her wonder if she’s actually pleasuring you.
There’s no need to exaggerate your feelings, but you can let your partner know you’re enjoying her company in a genuine way. The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing.
There is nothing special about being ordinary. So get off the hook and try the following four little talked about hotspots that will soar her to the skies of lovemaking.
1. Neck
The sides of the neck just below the ears are packed with sensitive nerve endings that send warm shockwaves all the way down to her honeypot. Caressing this area gently may just marvel you.
2. Earlobes
Kissing and licking her earlobes gently works perfectly among some ladies. We say some because this can be a complete turn off for others. Blowing some warm air into her ears as you promise her heavens can also yield great results.
3. Behind the knees
This area is also packed with sensitive nerve endings which can stimulate her like crazy! Caress the area gently with your fingers or even kiss it as you go on your way up.
4. Feet
The area around the ankles has sensitive nerve endings that connect directly to her vagina and the uterus. Reflexologists believe that pressure around this area can trigger a sexual arousal.
Massaging, kissing or rubbing your feet against hers while you are for instance, relaxing on the couch can just turn her on than you have never experienced before.
5. Her lower back
A sensual back massage has the power to stimulate nerves in her back that can relieve her from stress at the end of a long day as well as simultaneously turn her on.
Caress her back gently, especially the sacrum; the area right above her tailbone that is smeared with nerve endings. Use your thumbs to use pressure while massaging the area above both sides of her butt.
6. Her abdomen
The fact that women are often conscious about their midsection makes it more important not to ignore that area. Since her abdominal muscles are connected to her vagina even a light stimulation in that area can heighten arousal levels, as it is crowded with nerve endings.
Stroke your fingers along her stomach all the way towards her nethers and back up. This will stimulate enough blood flow to her nether region and build up her anticipation levels.
7. Her inner thighs
The inner thighs, along with the back of her knees and crevices of her arms, are one of the sensitive parts of her body due to the sheer number of nerve endings in this area.
Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men “focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” a sex expert says.
While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during sex as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in — share a fantasy or a sexy memory.
Don’t think that “if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times,” says sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.
What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.
Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and see how she responds.”
When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.