Dating is generally not easy but dating single mothers or divorcees is twice as hard.
Although chemistry always wins, having some tips on how to hack such a relationship can be very helpful.
Here are some of the things you should know to successfully date a single mom
Be Yourself
Never try to prove that you can be better than her ex. After all, it is so frustrating to live your life trying to show her that you do not have the flaws that her ex-lover had.
It is important to be confident with who you are and this will make it easier for you to blend in.
If she notices that you are trying too hard, it might seem like you are forcing yourself to be what you are not. This can easily earn you a ticket to breaking up.
Never insist on meeting her kids
Make her kids her business until she expresses interest in introducing them to you.
This does not mean that you should not show some level of concern just do not be so pushy.
The secret is not to act like you are trying to fill in the gap that was left by their biological father.
Avoid asking triggering questions
If she was open to you about her past, you have definitely picked two or three things that she does not like talking about.
To avoid the chaos or awakening the wrong emotions, avoid asking the questions that can make her flame up.
You are not on a rescue mission
You are not trying to fix her for being broken. If you decided to treat her well, do it from the heart.
The biggest mistake you can ever make is giving her special treatment because you pity her or feel sorry about her past.
Although you can express sympathy, do not dwell on that because you can easily lose focus.
Treat her kids like your own
Once she willingly introduces you to her kids, you need to try as much as possible to treat them like your own.
The reality is that you will never be their biological father but you can invest your time in making them your friends.
Be curious to understand whether she co-parents or not
You can politely find out whether she is in contact with her ex-lover. This will help ease tension and prepare you best on how to make the process easier for her.