Do people just hate it and it brought most of us here in this world or they just want these new styles? So why do people love to bash it? Missionary-shaming has less to do with the physicality of the act than a critique of one’s sexual politics.
Like any setup in the bedroom, the missionary has its pros and cons. But one thing that people like about it the romantic intimacy of eye contact, a convenient kissing option, and maximized skin-to-skin contact is a double-edged sword.
Equating missionary with committed couplehood helps to import all the baggage of a potentially boring and eventually loveless long-term relationship. Thus it begins to evoke a status quo, the refusal to adventure elsewhere.
Missionary-shaming has less to do with the physicality of the act than a critique of one’s sexual politics. That we even call it missionary, as if it were the type of intercourse promoted by the church?
You can’t deny that the bodily facts of missionary lend fuel to the sense that it’s hopelessly old-fashioned and patriarchal: The woman is pinned under the man, with a limited range of motion, and while she may find it harder to climax this way, the dude is apt to come too soon. Still, we can’t be doing it just because media and society tell us to. God knows we’re all watching porn with acrobatic shit going on, and when we get frisky with a partner, it’s safe in the knowledge that no one else is observing us.
Then we slip into the familiar embrace of the missionary, a basic technique, but not a bad one.