I’m not sure if we can call it a world crisis that there are no husbands for women, or if it is a Kenyan thing. Many women in Nairobi want to get married but there are no men to marry them, or should I say all responsible men are already taken and we are now left with the ‘remnants’.
So for those in the dating scene, let not this ‘Slay Kings’ or ‘Cougar hunters’ propose and you blindly accept. Here is what you should be looking for in a man. Men should also take note, and adjust themselves accordingly to earn yourself a wife material.
1.Learn how to Communicate
Communication is two ways, you are either giving or taking. The dude should be able to listen to his mami. He should be concerned about her thoughts and stories. A woman wants a husband she can open up to. An emotional companion.
Women more than men are always told to keep quiet, but this should be both ways. Men should know when to hold back his tongue to prevent things from escalating especially when she is moody.
He should learn the art of communication; face to face and over the phone. Learn to check up on her, to engage, to chat her up and keep loneliness away.
2. Be the Alpha
Women want a man who knows what they want in life, of course, both of you must be going in the same direction. He should learn to give direction. Where are they going as a couple and family? He should offer confidence, vision and leadership.
Whether she earns more than him or not, he should play his part in meeting the needs of the family and seek ways to get more provisions and investments
3. Stay faithful
He should show commitment to the vision of their love through faithfulness. Leading from the front publicly and privately. Keeping off other women.
He should date his wife no matter how long they have been together. Make her feel special, compliment her, flirt with her, pursue her, romance her, excite her heart, treat her like a Queen
4. Fuel Mind, Soul and Spirit
Nothing is as good as having a praying husband. In most cases, prayer and spiritual things are left to women. The man should cover his wife and children in prayer, a prayer warrior in the spiritual realm, committing his family to his maker, putting on the full armour and going to war, accessing the spiritual blessings meant for his family.
Husband material should make Wifey believe in herself more, drowning her doubts, allaying her fears, reminding her who she is when she forgets, lifting up her spirits when she feels low, making her feel sexy and beautiful when she does not feel all that.
He should be a shoulder to lean on when she cries, the person she runs to when this world overwhelms her. Her cover
5. Sexual Arouse
He should make her feel desired and wanted. Turn her on like crazy. Open her tap of wetness. Know which buttons to push to give her sweet highs
6. Entertainment
He should know how to be her clown, how to mine for laughs out of her, how to make her smile, how to make her remember him when he is far from her and find herself smiling all by herself
7. Protect
This world can be tough for a woman; his mother, his sister, his friends, her friends, her boss, strangers might attack her. He should have the ability to keep her safe and make her feel she has an ally.
A man can become his wife’s worst enemy, the pain he can cause her if he chooses to harm her physically, emotionally, sexually or financially is too great. He should make sure he doesn’t be her worst mistake
His words carry so much weight. Words of appreciation and encouragement are enough to keep her going, he should keep refuelling and recharging her
8. TLC
He should understand how sensitive a woman’s skin is and how it loves to be touched. He should learn the non-verbal communication of touch, how to rub her back, hold her waist, stroke her skin and cuddle up with her.
He should also have the ability to be vulnerable, to need his wife, to allow her to do the above things to him, to be there for him, to trust her with his issues and to give her room to love him. Women love being of value.
He should put his ego aside and attend to his wife and family even without being asked, anticipating their needs, being there hero. To lead is to serve