Everyone has their own rules for dating.
Perhaps when you are (dating) you get to come right out there and tell women things like this without them running away.
But then again, maybe not.
While most of us prefer having the security of a long-term deal, some of us don’t want to risk locking ourselves in situations in which we might become unhappy.
This is the philosophy that I have carried over into my personal life.
Here are my three rules to dating and sleeping with other people:- They can also work for you if you wish to try
One: No feelings. As soon as I sense you’re developing feelings, I’m going to cut it off, because I’m not interested in a relationship and I’m emotionally unavailable.
Two: no social media posts about me while we’re together, because private life stays private.
Three: I sleep with other people. I’m going to continue to sleep with other people. If you’re not O.K. with that, we won’t sleep together, and that’s perfectly fine. We can just be perfectly polite platonic friends.
This is my way of being considerate.
I imagine if I was married at this point, I would be a very bad husband.
I do want a family in the future, when I can be as all in on it, maybe in a decade or so.
Think about having the stones to tell someone that you are dating that you will also be sleeping with other people? The best part about my/your “rules” is the fact that I believe I’m being considerate by coming right out with his demands.
What if she has rules, too?