Common stereotypes people have about Kenyan men

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Traditional values and gender roles are being flipped upside down. We live in a very confusing age. And that is most likely not going to change any time soon. Men have proven to be different from women in the value they place on their perceptions of various things in life.

Kenyan ladies, in particular, are not the easy type to please, ask any man around. Day in, men have struggled fit into a picture tainted on what they should or shouldn’t do.They tried hard to prove that they are equal with women and the pressure to act in a certain way or hold a given position, should be done away with. It is with this in mind that some we highlight a few stereotypes that people generally have about Kenyan men;

Myth 1: Kenyan Men shouldn’t be Emotional

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Many of the differences in the ways men and women express emotions are the results of cultural traditions and expectations. Women are expected to reveal certain emotions, and men are expected to suppress them. Fear of rejection and pressing societal expectations prevent them from showing their emotions. This proves that men are emotional beings.

Myth 2: Kenyan Men are Big, Brave and Strong

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There is nothing wrong with wanting to be healthy and strong, but size and strength are not the determining characteristics of masculinity. There are some men who are Unlike being brave, what would you want someone do with the fear that they experience? To admit insecurity or fear is to be other than a real man we are taught. It’s a false and unhealthy notion that leads us to suppress and ignore our emotions.

Myth 3: Men Aren’t Weak, They Don’t Break Down, They Don’t Cry

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You have heard this enough times that real men don’t cry. The issue with this myth is that men should cry. I’m not suggesting weeping uncontrollably at television commercials, but that scripture says that real men should have the ability to cry at appropriate moments. It’s a matter of being secure enough and aware of your emotions, that you have the ability to shed some tears.

Myth 4: Men have Unquenchable Appetite for Sex

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Certainly, men are different from women in the value they place on their perceived need for sex. However, the vast majority of men I have worked with don’t claim to be great lovers, nor do they have an insatiable appetite. For many men, this puts enormous pressure on them and can create performance anxiety that can cripple their ability to function sexually. Sex becomes reduced to performance, and the person is lost.

Myth 5: A value of a man is in what he Earns

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“There is a difference between loving what you do and having a passion for your work, and being a workaholic.” Few things are more important to a man’s pride and his manhood than work. That’s why many men become addicted to their work and become workaholics.

If you can set your work down and let it go at the end of the day, and not ruminate about it throughout the weekend, you aren’t addicted to it. Work is necessary and important. The problem is that many allow what they do to be the basis of their significance.

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