How would you define your relationship? What inputs do you really put in to make your relationship mature? A mature relationship occurs when two individuals come together lovingly and understand each other’s strength and weakness and then put in best efforts to make each other happy.
A mature relationship is that which has grown beyond childish fantasies and childlike traits. Everyone hopes for a mature relationship, but many adults act immature in their relationships, and that’s the irony of it all.
Have a relationship that’s mature enough to make you sit down and be like ” look this is our problem & this is how we’re gonna fix it..”
— OLADIMEJI 🚫 (@Dimz_i_am) June 28, 2019
A mature relationship far exceeds the normal relationship; not that it’s a perfect relationship, but both partners in the relationship act in the best interest of the relationship. It’s ironical that mature adults in relationships tend to act like kids and throw tantrums, and also point accusing fingers each other’s way.
Below are signs of a mature relationship;
1. BOTH PARTNERS KNOW THEIR ROLES AND PLAY IT WELL
When each partner know what’s expected of them and play their role in their relationship, there is bound to be more understanding and less quarrelling in that relationship. Role definition and execution are important to the relationship, and many relationships falter because many people feel that their partners don’t play their supposed role in the relationship.
2. YOU RESPECT EACH OTHER
A relationship is more peaceful and has a high presence of understanding when there is respect. In immature relationships, partners lack respect for each other; they cross boundaries and do things without really minding the effect it would have on the relationship or on their partner. Respect breeds understanding and this is one key quality every mature relationship has.
3. YOU TRUST EACH OTHER
Trust is highly important for a relationship to be successful. When you don’t trust your partner and your partner doesn’t trust you as well, it’s obvious that such a relationship is an immature one. For trust to exist then it means you and your partner puts up traits that show you are both reliable and dependable and that’s maturity.
4. YOU DON’T ARGUE TO FIGHT
Arguments may exist in every relationship, but that of an immature relationship is different from a mature one. In an immature relationship, couples argue to fight, to prove a point or for one other self-centred reason or the other. However, in a mature relationship, more often than not, their arguments tend to be productive — and even when arguing, they don’t go on to use insulting words or derogatory words against each other.
5. YOU LOVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
When you are in a mature relationship, you would love your relationship in every bit of the word and put in continuous efforts in making that relationship a success.
6. YOU LOVE EACH OTHER
This is also non-negotiable; you ought to care about each other and want the best for each other. In a mature relationship, both partners enter the relationship because they have genuine love and affection for each other rather than entering the relationship for selfish gains.
7. GOOD COMMUNICATION
Communication is an essential part of a relationship and it requires both listening and talking. The problem with communication in many relationships is that many partners talk but don’t listen; in mature relationships, partners not only talk to each other, but they hear each other out.
8. YOU LOVE WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP IS HEADING
In a mature relationship, partners plan ahead together; the relationship has a future which both partners love and look forward to. A mature relationship doesn’t only offer great things today, but tomorrow as well.
9. PARTNERS AREN’T SELF-CENTRED
“I” is the keyword in an immature relationship and “we” is the keyword in a mature relationship. In a mature relationship, both partners don’t think of themselves alone; rather they put each other’s interest at heart and work to better each other’s life.
10. TOGETHERNESS
Happy couples stay together and unhappy couples don’t. In a mature relationship, couples spend quality time with each other and do a lot of things together; they have fun with each other and sorely miss each other when apart.
11. APOLOGISE WHEN WRONG
This is probably what separates a mature relationship from an immature one. It takes maturity to acknowledge that you are sorry and apologise for your mistakes, and that’s what mature couples do — they apologise to each other rather than making matters worse or keeping malice.