Are you a selfish partner? If you are, then it’s guaranteed your relationship will never be a happy one. Selfishness is a common act many partners put up in relationships; it’s even harder to see an unselfish partner than a selfish one. A lot of people put up selfish practices in their relationships and aren’t aware that such an act depicts selfishness.
Do you think you don’t put up selfish traits in your relationship? Then you just might be wrong. Maybe you are the selfish one, but keep blaming your partner, below are some traits to watch out to tell if you or your partner is selfish;
1. YOU FIND IT HARD TO FORGIVE
Anyone who doesn’t forgive isn’t worthy of forgiveness. Some people take things too personal and to the extreme that they forget to forgive or choose not to. If you can’t forgive your partner and move on smoothly, then you don’t also deserve to be forgiven. Being hard-hearted is also a sign of selfishness.
2. EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
This a common act that most selfish people take advantage of.Things like withholding s3x, giving your partner the silent treatment and making your partner feel guilty for your wrongs are all examples of emotional blackmail.
3. YOU DON’T APOLOGISE
Apologies are a natural part of a relationship; if you hurt your partner or did something wrong, you ought to apologise. Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t apologise; they just expect their mistakes to be forgiven and forgotten without apologising.
4. YOU SEEK ONLY YOUR SEXUAL SATISFACTION
Sexual satisfaction should be two way. Would it make any sense to just have allthe pleasure and leaving your partner It’s easy to get carried away sexually and seek only your sexual satisfaction, but this is a selfish act.
5. YOU GET ANGRY EASILY
Some partners can’t take a joke and they get angry at the slightest mistake or slightest thing that happens. Unknown to them, such a trait is a selfish one, because the relationship wouldn’t move smoothly when this happens.
6. YOU LET YOUR PARTNER DO ALL THE COMMUNICATING
Communication has alwasy been key for any relationship to thrive. If you notice that your partner is not communicating then they are selfish. It’s a bit frustrating when your partner calls you regularly and you don’t call back either, or when your partner tries to know what’s going on in your life and you don’t do same.
7. YOU ARE PROUD AND WANTS THINGS YOUR WAY
If there is one place pride shouldn’t exist, it’s in the relationship. It’s selfishness when you always think your way is the best way and you never listen to your partner. When you always want things to go your way, you are simply being a selfish partner. It’s a relationship and not a one person show.
8. YOU KEEP DOING THE WRONG THINGS
Some partners see being corrected as nagging, but they are the ones who turn their partners into nagging partners. When you don’t take corrections, but keep doing the same wrong thing over and over, you not only make your partner feel aggrieved and frustrated, you also show signs of being insensitive and selfish.
If you are an abusive partner, stingy, self-centred and intolerant partner then you are also a selfish partner. People put up these selfish traits and they don’t even know that it’s an act of selfishness.