Relationships are tough we have to agree. Marriage ain’t a bed of roses either. In most marital relationships men are always seen as the bad ones. They surprisingly get caught in affairs and take the blame for breaking up the marriage. Call it coincidence or bad luck, probably they don’t know how to manoeuvre their way through. However, things are no different with women with many admitting that they’ve cheated on their husbands.
There are many reasons why one would cheat. Some are downright absurd. However, it women could pay men back equally well and cheat just like their counterparts do. Let us look at a few instances where women decided they had taken enough and concluded it was time to give back some of the treatment they had received from their husbands.
As we provide these instances to you, we also give you the ages of the women and the reasons why they decided to make a change in their lives. Millions of women are getting older without any qualms about getting involved with another person or sleeping with their physical instructors.
Therefore, one needs to ask what made this woman feel different. Was she beginning to feel insecure about herself? Did she feel that her husband would not be attracted to her because she was closing in on 40? We can have a number of theories, but the fact will remain unchanged that the woman cheated on her husband.
The Fear Of Being Neglected
Every woman has a fear of being neglected by her husband. The woman we are now talking about was no different in this regard. Perhaps the only problem was that she wanted attention all the time, including significant time with her husband in bed. Her husband did not share her beliefs which led her to decide she was perhaps being neglected.
In this case, this couple had intimate differences, and the matter could easily have been resolved by having a discussion with each other. However, desperation got the better of the woman. She decided to have an affair to give herself the feeling that she was indeed desirable and not being neglected by her new boyfriend.
Are these instances giving you the feeling that women are the villains in some cases? The biggest reason why women cheat is that they feel undesired and unattractive particularly with advancing age. All the instances in this discussion are about women in their early 40s. Therefore, men are NOT the only culprits in matters like these because quite a few women also involve themselves in unnecessary trouble.
Fear of Financial Restrictions
One woman from Mathare had every reason to be furious with her husband, who reprimanded her for making too many purchases using his Mpesa. She had her phone confiscated by her husband who then thew it in a slum.
To make matters worse, her husband also put restrictions on her movements and imposed a spending limit on her. Although he was just trying to keep the budgets in check, he perhaps went too far to antagonize his wife to do the unthinkable.
The woman did not like the restrictions. Neither did she approve the spending limits. She decided to get her own back by sleeping with her ex-boyfriend a few months after the incident. Could she have improved the situation by having a discussion with her husband? Could the couple have discussed effectively to keep tabs on their spending limits?
Was it necessary for the woman to cheat on her husband just because of a squabble between themselves? Regardless of the reasons, the realities about this incident will remain as they are because the woman got back at her husband by using a method of her choice.