Not all the women in the world, to be sure, love fingering some say it feels about as pleasurable as a finger up the nose. Others called it “a low-impact sex act for adults.” Other said once you’ve had the penis, what’s the point? As if fingers are, at best, a poor man’s penis, when they are, in fact, a rich man’s appendages.
If we can drill down to one true sex thing, it’s that the only thing worse than never doing a potentially great sex thing at all is doing that potentially great sex thing badly. Such is the case with fingering. Currently, there is a terrible fingering epidemic so serious women would rather go finger-free than endure the digital terror of an awkward finger bang.
Fingering has the potential to be great but it never will be because men are terrible at it. Straight men are told to do away with their bad fingering if they cannot get this essential sex move right. It’s sad that men still need to be told this because, in many ways, fingering is more important than other sex things men seem to think matter more.
Fingering is more important than whether you have a big dick, because it will compensate grandly for a smaller one, and it will accent wonderfully with a big one. Lots of shorter sex is better than one big long sex session, and fingering is better than one epic performance-art tantric sex.
Yes, a bunch of life-changing earthquake-gasms is great if you’re an expert lover, but given that only 64 percent of women get off in sexual encounters compared to 91 percent of men, how about shoot for one decent orgasm? If that comes from fingering, all the better.
This one’s controversial, but the reality is, good head comes with fingering. Ideally, combine both oral and digital stimulation in one super-move. But unless you’re knocking it out of the park on clitoral stimulation alone and even if you are varying it up by using them intermittently.
Maybe the trouble is that, much like hand jobs, we think of fingering as purely the province of teenagers something you do when you can’t or don’t want to play for the big leagues yet. When you don’t want to go all the way to third base, you finger. When you don’t have anywhere to really fuck, you finger. That’s what backseats, spaces between two buildings in Nairobi City and under the benches at rugby events are meant for.
But fingering shouldn’t be something we grow out of it deserves to run with the big dogs. It belongs right beside other sex moves in the adult repertoire, and unlike other sex moves, it can actually double as both opener and headliner.
