While it still remains taboo in some circles, heterosexual anal sex seems to be gaining in popularity, and more and more male/female couples are turning the tables, exploring male anal penetration by a female partner, a kind of play that’s affectionately been nicknamed BOB, or bend over boyfriend.
Carol Queen, sexologist and sex activist, refers to anal play as the great equalizer. She points out that the bum, the anus, the rectum, even the sphincter muscles, can be sites of immense physical and psychological pleasure, and that this pleasure is open to all, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
Being penetrated can be a profound emotional, psychological, and spiritual experience. It can also be a lot of breezy fun without deeper meaning. It is what you make it, and you need to find out how it feels best for you if you are interested in giving it a try.
Any sort of anal play requires tremendous trust and a lot of sexual communication.
If you’re interested in checking this out, bring it up and see how your partner feels about it. Choose your time wisely, and be prepared for some hesitation at first. There is an element of role reversal and gender play with BOB, and people can have unexpected reactions at first.
If you’re a guy who wants to be penetrated, get comfortable with anal play on your own.
You don’t need months of practice before you get a partner involved, but if you’ve never been down that road, check out what’s going on. Learn about male genital anatomy, and start to incorporate anal pleasure into your masturbation. You’ll be in a better position to tell your partner what you like and what you don’t if you’ve done a bit of homework beforehand.