If you know how awesome and great you are, you won’t feel worthless when someone who doesn’t see your greatness rejects you. It is their loss. Suicide, depression, ulcers, domestic violence and killings; these are some of the destructive ways people deal with rejection.
Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions.
Here are a few truths about rejection:
1.Fear of the Unknown
You would rather be rejected by someone who is not serious about you during dating, than to commit to them in marriage.
2. Ensure you’re Complete before Marriage
Your spouse can reject you through cheating, disrespect or even by asking for a divorce. It will hurt, but when you know you were complete before getting married, and you are complete even after marriage, you will walk away and heal. No need forcing yourself in a marriage where you are not needed.
3. Stereotyping
Sometimes people will reject you because they have been fed stereotypes and lies about you. This is why it is important to know oneself otherwise
4. Little In-differences
Sometimes people will reject you because they don’t see the same vision you do and it’s OK. Understand them. You see what you see and pursue it.
5. Understand Stewardship
Being rejected by your parents hurts, but remember, parents are not our God, they are but stewards and sometimes they abdicate that role of stewardship. Honour them but curve your own path, as an adult, you choose the man/woman you become.
6. Spirit of Rejection
If you are religious and claiming you have a spirit of rejection, remember that Jesus too was rejected but he didn’t have a spirit of rejection. In fact, the stone that was rejected turned out to be the cornerstone.
you’ve been through a lot, and you’re still here.
— alexandra elle (@_alexelle) April 23, 2019
your heart has been broken, and you’re still whole.
you’ve felt moments of defeat, and you’re still rising.
you’ve faced rejection head on, and you still matter.
your worth has been questioned, and you’re still valued.
You don’t have a spirit of rejection, sometimes people just don’t get you and understand your purpose but one day they will only as long as you stay true to self.
7. Do not Reject Yourself
Once you reject yourself, you will put yourself down, develop a low self-esteem and no matter how much people value you and love you, you will demean yourself and see you as unworthy.
8. Rejection is Good
Rejection can actually be good for our growth, sometimes being dumped, being told NO, being fired, being abandoned or turned down pushes us to self analyse and work on ourselves.
Sometimes doors don’t open because we have not yet grown ready for them but eventually we will.