Divorce has never been easy for either of the partners, so it should take a little time for one to review and recollect themselves before getting into another relationship.
The very first rule if you ever decide to go back to the dating scene is that no one is ever the same, your previous relationship is not a reflection of the next. Having an open mind is something you should strongly learn to embrace.
It is good to take your time and not rush into anything just because you are ready to be with somebody. The fact is you are vulnerable and although you may want to replace that person with a better version doesn’t mean you should just jump into it. How long you take before your first date is entirely up to you.
Here are some tips to help when you decide to restart your social life all over again.
1. Do not rush: Divorce takes a lot of time and energy from someone. The life-changing process can be an emotional strain. This is the time you need to take to be by yourself, learn to enjoy your own company and to love yourself anew. Before waiting for someone’s love, remember you need to rejuvenate and be your own person. During this time go on a road trip with your friends or do simple things that used to make you happy. Indulge in your hobbies and send out love to your kids if you have any because the chance that they saw you in a lot of misery during the divorce is high. Work on your relationship with them and let them be close to you again.
2. Stay positive: When you do start dating avoid talking about your exes flaws to your date. Bashing your ex makes you look pretty and bitterness. It’s even more important to keep positive when you have children with your ex.
3. Do not be obsessed: It’s easy to get excited when you start dating and you may take it too seriously believing it could end up as a relationship. Do not rush, enjoy the dating process. Your new relationship should not be rushed towards marriage or living together. Take baby steps and have fun.
4. Do not neglect your children: If you have kids it is very easy to neglect your children when you finally start dating. You have this new love in your life that you would like to be with all the time. Make sure you still send time with your kids or have time for your other responsibilities. You may want to be out more and come back late though this should be postponed to holidays when there are less responsibilities.