A lady identified as Alexis Chateau has narrated how her unfaithful lover told her she was required to share her bae with other women.
Completely irked by the idea of ‘sharing is caring,’ the lady dumped the man and moved on.
In a Twitter post shared on Saturday, April 6, the lady explained how her lover had chased her for years before the two settled down.
Apparently, Alexis later learned she was actually the other woman as the man’s first girlfriend was still in the picture.
Her lover earlier lied he was single when he was still pursuing her. When she decided to leave him, the chap said she was full of pride because Alexis was not willing to share her man.
“Finally went out with a guy who had been chasing me for years. Then, he confessed he had lied and was still with his ex. Told him I could not see him any more then,” she penned.
There is a spectrum of reasons as to why a woman would knowingly share a man, and many of the reasons aren’t good. A woman who would willingly share a man is afraid of commitment herself.Â
She may have witnessed her father cheat on her mother. She may have been abused, and now she has issues with trusting others. She doesn’t do well when she’s alone, and she often sits around, crying about where her man is.Â
The man-sharer may wear many faces, and may participate in the relationship for many reasons, but relationship specialists say one thing that is constant in the game of man-sharing is that all good times will come to an end, sooner or later.
Some women who man-share have an agenda to get pregnant, either so they can always have a connection with this man, or to get money from him.
Once the mistress is pregnant, generally, the man’s guilt will not allow him to tell her what he really feels about having a baby out of wedlock. And if the mistress starts nagging him, like a wife, or is exhausted, like a wife, or needs more money, like a wife, he will drift off to a new lover.
A common misconception about the men involved in man-sharing relationship is that they are, too, having their cake and eating it too. But if the man is in a loveless marriage, and he’s only with his wife for the sake of the kids, or to avoid shelling out half of his money in a divorce, his involvement in man-sharing can be equally distressing.
It is only when the man is enjoying his marriage and the woman on the side that he is happiest. And in most cases, the happy playboy is a myth.
Perhaps the most lasting emotional consequence of man-sharing is that some women, so entangled in the web of emotions, with their part-time man, have not made the effort to find a man of their own. If their part-time lover decides on a future without her, she’s left free-falling without a safety net.
Alexis was smart in letting go of someone else’s man and knowing her worth enough to know hers is still out there.