Lovemaking is as important as any other business anyone may carry out on earth. That fact has been proven statistically.
This is because poor sexual life will always lead to resentments in marriages and strained relationships, potentially threatening the marriage institution.
Slay queens too have learned what men need in bed and how to deliver it sustainably. These beauties have perfected the bedroom skills and they know how to keep men between their legs and entertain him until the end of the game.
Statistics have shown nearly every domestic squabble between partners is a product of unsatisfying sexual experience.
Read on and make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today.
This work is based on research, statistics, interviews as well as published books by sexologists and psychologists.
Have you ever given thought to the terms s3x and making love?
These two words have completely different meanings! Sex is more about satisfying
From foreplay to the actual intercourse, blend it with dirty talk and voila! You’re swimming in cloud 9.
Clearly, making love involves a lot of activities. You can look at it as a full course meal, appetizer, main dish, and dessert.
This piece is your guide to becoming a sex pro. Grab a notebook and a pen, you are about to get tips for a better sex life!
FOREPLAY IS TOO IMPORTANT TO IGNORE
Foreplay builds anticipation. It gets the body ready for intercourse. While s3x is a physical connection, foreplay builds an emotional connection between you and your partner. Moreover, it gives the body a chance to naturally lubricate itself. This way, intercourse is more pleasurable.
If you are a man, foreplay will involve your hands a lot. Be sensual as you touch your woman. Stroke her boobs, fondle her nipples, and take a trip downtown with your fingers. Let your hands do the talking.
If you are a woman, your man will love it if you know how to use your soft hands properly. Stroke the big man down there. Be gentle but at the same time stroke his penis with a firm grip.
Start at the base of the penis and move towards the tip. Rub the head with your flat palm and repeat the process. Blend twisting rubs with circular strokes. You can use a lubricant, it will make the touch more pleasurable for your man.
STATE OF AROUSAL
While everyone has different tastes and preferences in bed, some sexual aspects are enjoyed by a majority. If you want your partner to keep coming back for more, embellish your sex game and initiate Lovemaking.
Don’t assume it’s your man’s job to turn you on. Get in the driver’s seat and get yourself in the mood! Your man will be turned on just by seeing your arousal and how much you want him.
TAKE CONTROL
Women appreciate men who dominate them in bed. It a complete turn on. For a better lovemaking life, hold her with strength and keep your grip firm. However, do not hurt her. Pleasure her as you control the process. Turn her around as you play with different parts of her body.
Enter her from a standing position as you hold her on your hip. The goal here is to portray your masculine strength. Give her instructions as you make love to her. Tell her to moan louder.
For the women who want to up their game, turn the tables on your man sometimes and take control. Sneak into his closet and borrow some ties.
If his wardrobe is casual don’t freak out yet. Use his scarfs instead. Tie his hands-not too tight though. This is not a correction camp!
Consider propping up his head on a pillow, he should have a visual of what you are doing. He needs to remember every inch of how it felt.
Tip number 27 in the book “The 69 Tips to Pleasing Your Man,” by Adriese Love is aggressively taking over sometimes. Play with him as you give him instructions. To make it more fun, ‘punish’ him when he disobeys.
ORAL EXTRAVAGANZA
Become better at initiate lovemaking by going the extra mile.
Your partner may not always request for an oral, but both men and women enjoy head. Go down on your woman, stimulate her clitoris with your tongue.
Try using the fingers and the tongue together. Women like different experiments down there, therefore, play with your tongue.
Women, give your man a fellatio of his lifetime, and he will keep crawling back for more!
VISUAL DELIGHTS
Men are visual beings. You must have heard the cliché of the reason why men tell lies and women dress to impress.
Instead of the usual jumping right into the action, try some teasing. Making love is not about ripping clothes off your partner.
Although there are instances when it is fun to do so. Especially when you have not seen each other for a while!
Do not be quick to get clothes out of the way. Turn the act of removing clothes into a pleasurable moment. Make it enticing. Your fingers should slowly brush the skin of your partner. When you initiate this move, your partner will follow suit.
Use your teeth to open buttons on his shirt. You can use your tongue to remove his boxers.
This can also work for the woman, kiss her all around her panties. Take your time before unclipping her bra. Make her anticipate before you get her completely naked.
SET UP THE MOOD
To let you in on the secret, ambiance contributes a large percent towards having a better lovemaking session. Why don’t you try sometime?
Tim LaHaye in his book “The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love,” advises that you should strive 3 things. Orgasms through touching, orgasms through intercourse and orgasms together. You have some homework!
A few ideas to get started are making the light dim and as an alternative using candlelight. Adding some soft music in the background will complete the set. You can also try running a warm bath and sit in the tub together.
Have some wine on the side. Bath and caress each other in the tub. By the time you are finished with the bath, you will be all over each other’s arms. Finishing what you started.
TALK DIRTY
Speak naughtily! Don’t be afraid that your man will think lowly of you. In fact, it is a turn on. Not dirty from the gutter, spicy dirty. Does that make sense?
Try abusive words, not offensive. Throw in your best husky voice as you tease him about what you want him to do to you. Feedback is extremely important during sex. Guide your partner on how to get you there!
TEASE
In most instances, people have routine sex they don’t initiate lovemaking
It starts with a few seconds or five minutes tops-with cuddling and kissing. This is for the lucky few. Some others skip all the important steps and just jump right into intercourse. Which category do you fall under?
If you are worried that you fall under this group of people, worry no more. The love doctor is here to help you out. For better lovemaking, tease your partner the next time you have sex.
If you are a woman, rub his penis on your clitoris. Do it slowly, like you have all the time in the whole world! When he begs for penetration, insert the tip of his penis then remove it. Continue rubbing his manhood on your clit until he goes crazy.
If you are a man, keep the sex prolonged and slow. If you are giving her an oral job, stop when she is about to climax and start intercourse. Be intentionally slow. Get her stimulated to the point where she is about to climax and immediately stop. Then start all over again. She will go so wild that she will be begging for more stimulation.
MASSAGE
Do not underestimate the power of the touch! Combine setting up the mood and topping it up with a massage treatment.
You don’t need to be a pro, make it erotic and stimulating. It relaxes the whole body. Your partner could be feeling intense probably after a long day.
A message is a shortcut to arousing him. Keep the mood light and the conversation lighter. Massage them naked and strip down to your birthday suit too as you give the message. You can be assured that this massage will end at the place they call cloud 9.
HAVE FUN
“Adult” games make the entire session more enticing and better. Tim LaHaye in his book, “The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love,” agrees that enjoyable sex is not difficult to learn.
Play games such as “Truth or Dare” with your partner or strip poker or whichever game comes to mind. You have to be creative here. Create your own rules. Besides, you are in your fortress and it’s a full house. You are the king and she is the queen or vice versa. It means you can live by your own rules in the bedroom.
Try new sex positions to complement the games. It is a good time to try out your sexual fantasies during such moments. If the attempts fail, do not sulk. Laugh heartily to release the tension. Or as Alex Comfort suggests in “The Joy of Sex,” you can try arranging a practice session for any new tricks. Such experiences improve the emotional connection with your partner.
USE THINGS THAT ARE AT YOUR DISPOSAL
This calls for taking it a step further for a better lovemaking life.
Visit your fridge and make good use of the things you have stocked in there. You can use strawberries, honey, ice cream, grapes, name it! Whichever choice you like best.
Strip you partner naked and place the item you have chosen to play with on them. Remember it’s from the fridge so it’s cold. Then lick it off from your partner’s body slowly.
The sensation of two different temperatures on his/her body will feel amazing. Plus the tongue has a way of adding sensations to the skin.
You might want to have a clean pair of beddings to change because this is a murky ordeal. It will leave a mess on its trail!
CHOOSE A NAUGHTY COSTUME
For women, use kinky clothing to arouse and initiate lovemaking with your man.
You can dress up before he gets home and catch him by surprise. You can also use the costumes to arouse him on a lazy weekend around the house. Walk around the house in lacy underwear as you go about the house chores. Wear his shirt with buttons undone halfway with nothing underneath.
Tip number 30 by Adriese Love, in the book “The 69 Tips to Pleasing Your Man.” Even take it a notch higher and walk around the house in your birthday suit.
Make it look effortless, it’s sexier!
PLAY WITH YOURSELF
You will never know how intimate it is to fondle yourself as your partner is watching until you try it! Make the whole lovemaking process better. Lie down and play with your body. Maintain eye contact. Stimulate yourself to climax. If you want your partner to help you, ask them to take it up from where you have stopped.
EXPLORE YOUR PARTNER’S BODY
You have been given the key to your partner’s body, so why don’t you make good use of it? Else that body starts yearning for a person who will heed its needs!
Use the time in the bedroom to discover the areas on your partner’s body that drive him/her crazy. Everyone has those spots on the body that stimulate the whole body when touched or kissed. Kisses can be put anywhere on the body. Says “The Joy of Sex,” by Alex Comfort. You will only know this by exploring their body.
Move slowly and watch the reaction on their face. If they are uncomfortable being touched on a certain area of the body, don’t push it. Look out for the ones that drive him/her wild!
To get you started, try the neck, inner thighs, genitals, feet, and ears.
START EARLY
Uh-uh…Not at an early age! Early in the day. For better lovemaking, start preparing your minds early.
Prepare your partner by dropping hints throughout the day. Sex chat at work or meet up for lunch. During lunch, you can sneak into the bathroom and remove your panties. Then pass them to your partner under the table. Let him take them with him after lunch.
He gets the hint and will be hot on his heels all over you when you get home!
Making love is intense and both of you should be empathetic to the other person’s needs. All in all, making love should never be a dull escapade. Equipped with all the above tips, you don’t have a defense not to have an active sex life. Strive for a better lovemaking life, you deserve it!
ADULT BOARD GAMES
Here are some fun and sexy way of initiating foreplay before you initiate lovemaking. You may not have any adult board games at home. Well, no need to worry! You can convert almost any board game or card game into an adult version.
All you need is to have a few sexy penalties and you are good to go. You will be amazed at how easy it is to turn your partner on for a great lovemaking session.
COOK FOR HIM AND FEED HIM TOO
Start by planning a romantic homemade dinner for two. Ask him to pick up all the ingredients and let him help you with the cooking. This is a great way to initiate bonding before the actual lovemaking.
Once you are done with the cooking, show each other love by one feeding the other. You might have to take the lead to encourage your partner along with it. Ensure that you make a wise choice of the foods you feed each other. You don’t want to be dropping curry all over one another’s body. Do you?
BECOME ARTISTIC
Engaging in art is a great way to increase the level of bonding between you and your partner. It could be something you mutually love to do or a passion you want to teach your partner. Yet it could just be something so simple that you don’t have to get out of the house doing it.
Try painting, for example. Sketch pictures and paint together. Alternatively, use edible body paint to smudge each other in colours that will brighten your foreplay before you initiate lovemaking. Make it as intense as possible and you will be in each other’s hands panting and sweating.
A NIGHT OUT DANCING
You might want to go out to a social place for a night out dancing or do it right there in the house to a background of soothing love ballads. Surely there is no better way to initiate lovemaking than a long night dancing and pushing your bodies against each other.
Put on your sexy dress that is sure to grab his attention and enable him to see the visual treat you really are. Who knows, he will want to make love to you there and then.
HAVE A SHOWER TOGETHER
When your partner gets home from work and heads straight for the shower, sex it up by undressing yourself and jumping in with them. Great love making thrives on spontaneity. As such, the unexpectedness of this situation will be a huge turn-on for the two of you.
Try lathering each other up. This together with the sensation of water gushing everywhere is just the perfect recipe for foreplay before you initiate lovemaking. This is comparable to having a bath together.
DEMAND IT
If you are the woman in the relationship, grab your partner and tell him what you want from him. This is supported by Sheila Wray Gregoire in her book 31 Days to Great Sex, in which she says you don’t have to wait for your partner to initiate lovemaking. You might want to tell him to get on his knees, climb on top, or strip naked in the kitchen.
In her book She’s Asking for It – The Sex Your Woman is Secretly Craving, Eve Kingsley, suggests that women should learn to ask for sex more often. You may also wrap it up with a sexy close-up picture. It could be something as subtle as a pic of your lacy bra peeking out of your low-cut top. To as to avoid having a pic of you doing the rounds on social media, leave your face out of it.
DROPPING OBVIOUS HINTS.
Most of the times, the hints you give your partner may either be misunderstood or ignored. So ensure you drop sexy props your partner cannot ignore. You may leave a vibe you like to use together or a warming lube on his pillow to show you are ready to initiate lovemaking.
If he asks you about it, wink at him and go for it. It has been shown by studies that men perceive sex to be the same as love. So making him feel wanted will only boost the bond between the two of you.
DRESSING THE PART
You might want to slip lacy fishnet thigh highs under your normal clothes and give your man a peek. This can be done before you leave the house to create a daylong expectation or make love there and then.
Initiating lovemaking can be exciting, mainly because of the fear of the unknown. With this excitement, you will reignite the chemistry you felt in the early days with your partner. Who knows, like many others you might end up feeling hot in fishnets in a way that you haven’t done before.
PLAY MASSEUSE
A lot of men in relationships often fantasize about having a great massage. So why not give your man what he has been longing for right at home? Give him a rubdown to make him relax and surrender to you.
Slowly work your way down south until you reach his inner thighs. Once you reach here, you can be sure you’ve gotten it. This is a great way of setting the lovemaking stage as it drives him in a giving mood. It also gives you a serious boost in your own sexual self-esteem as you literally have him in your hands.
TAKE YOUR KISSING DOWN SOUTH
Nobody is saying that you never kiss him. For sure, you always give him a kiss when you meet at home after a long day of work. Yet that only ends up with the two of you dozing off soon after. Take your kissing a notch higher by reaching down and brushing your fingers along his inner thighs.
Remember that you need to be gentle and never rush things. Initiate Lovemaking slowly it, should never be rushed. This is bound to be a hotter way for both of you than going head on for a grab of his junk.
SHARE YOUR ULTIMATE FANTASIES
If you have been in a relationship for a long time, you should be in a position to open up without being inhibited by the ugly stuff. Be open with your partner about what turns you on as you learn to accept what the other wants. Work on ways to fulfill these desires so your partner can feel fulfilled in the relationship.
In such a situation, the least you can do is reach a common ground in lovemaking. There might be those fantasies that just cannot be fulfilled, and that should be fine with both of you. So, have a specific night when you talk about these fantasies and you will discover things you have never thought about.
In her book Flirt Fearlessly: The A to Z Guide to Getting Your Flirt On, Rachel DeAlto says that flirting is much more than what you do to lure the object of your affection into your clutches. She suggests that flirting should be fun and playful. Throwing your partner a wink is just a friendly reminder that you’re still hot for them. You might not be in the bedroom yet, but this is likely to set you on the path to initiate lovemaking session.
This could be the most powerful tool any skilled lover can have. You don’t have to wait till you are in the bedroom to show your saucy side. Flirt while readying yourself for work or just complement each other over breakfast.
Whisper in their ear when you get home so the kids won’t hear you. Your partner and you definitely crave the feeling of being desired. What better way to do it than talk dirty.
SURPRISE YOUR PARTNER
Even for those of you who don’t like surprises, there are those exciting ones that just set both of you on a great lovemaking session. Think out of the box and welcome your partner with a sex-related surprise.
It might be something as subtle as opening the door while adorned in that sexy lingerie you bought the other day or telling him to keep quiet while you pull the clothes off his body.
You may also greet him with nothing but a sly grin to point him in the direction you expect matters to turn. You may just find both of you are enjoying it. The key is to do it as often as possible and not just waiting for special occasions.
MEETING EACH OTHER FOR THE FIRST TIME – AGAIN
Arrange to meet your partner at a bar and pretend you’re strangers. This brings out the enthusiasm you get when you met for the very first time. You want to know each other and explore the unknown parts of your partner which is likely to lead to great lovemaking.
You can play this game on the plane too by pretending you don’t know each other. There is definitely nothing like meeting each other for the first time all over again. You are definitely going to remember why you fell for them in the first place.
USE CODE WORDS
You might have been living together for a while and now there are kids in the picture. If that is the situation you are in, it can get tough passing the message that you’re keen to Initiate lovemaking. To avoid having the kids listen to adult conversations, adopt the use of code words or phrases.
Your partner may ask if you are having a spicy meal for dinner to which you may answer yes or no depending on whether you feel like it or not. Of course, the kids will not have a clue of what you’re referring to.
OFFER FULL SERVICE
Dim the lights or candles, blindfold your lover or offer a slow, sensuous massage while admiring their body. Lead them to relish in the pleasure while having a deep breath.
Run your fingers, breath, tongue, and lips over every inch of the body and work down to their things. Keep it nice and slow to steadily fan up your passions for great lovemaking.
Conclusion
There is no reason why you should not initiate lovemaking and give your marriage a boost. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman. You don’t have to feel awkward asking your partner for something as essential as sex.
With these lovemaking tips, you are now good to go.
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