Have you ever lamented about the lack of good single men or women and how all the good men or women are taken? If you have, findings of a new study suggest that you are wrong.
Apparently, it is not that there are no good men or women left, but rather all the men and/or women you are attracted to are taken. The study showed that a man’s allure increases even more if he has a beautiful girlfriend.
For the study, 245 women were asked to rate the desirability of men in pictures with other women and in pictures where they were alone.
The researchers from Texas Christian University in the US observed that men pictured with a partner were rated as more desirable by women. Interestingly, men with an attractive partner were rated as most desirable.
The research found that men with beautiful girlfriends are also viewed as wealthier, more humorous, trustworthy, adventurous and generous.
The men pictured with attractive women were also seen as more intelligent and attentive to the needs of others, all qualities that women seek in the men they want to date.
To explain these findings which have been published in Evolution Psychology, the researchers say that women find men in relationships more attractive as a result of female mate choice copying.
Women assume that men in relationships are of a better breed than their single counterparts.
“There is the assumption that if all the good men are taken, then the women dating them must be keen on perceiving the qualities that make them good and worth hanging on to. As such, women judge a man on the quality and attractiveness of the woman whose attention he holds,” says Randi Proffitt, one of the study authors.
According to the researchers, after the initial phase of looking at the physical attributes, women look deeper into other qualities such as kindness, generosity and access to resources.
Being single
Some people make the choice to be single, while others suffer from the singlehood syndrome.
It does not mean that someday they wouldn’t want to be in relationships. In the meantime, they find every means possible to justify why they are single.
They range from; there are many single people out there to one day, he/she will find me.
So we are more connected than ever but more disconnected emotionally because society has taught us caring isn’t cool.
We’ve all been conditioned to suddenly care less about someone or be turned off by the person who shows they give a damn then be more interested in the other person who is keeping us guessing.
I’m sorry but what the actual flip are we all doing.
We claim we want relationships or want to see someone yet the second we get a message, we unmatch them because hey isn’t clever enough or their third picture isn’t attractive.
We claim we want relationships and want to see someone but we cancel the day of for reasons we don’t even know.
We claim we want relationships and want to see someone but everyone is acting like single is the cool thing to be while I know most people feel a sense of loneliness.
We are lacking a vital connection that everyone needs in their life which is an emotional connection with someone we’d maybe like to date.
But no one wants to put labels on things. Everyone wants their options open.
Everyone wants sex but doesn’t care about love.
Everyone wants someone but everyone is afraid to do something about it.
Everyone says they hate being single but they’d rather spend a Friday night alone watching Netflix and swiping than try stepping out their front door.
Everyone wants to rush to bed with some stranger rather than get to know them. Then if you get there too fast you, suddenly that person is easy and not, “dating material.”
We’re all looking for every reason for something not to work