We have all been given the formula of pleasing your man, however,
But there are a few universal answers to having the best kind of relationship that any man could ask for. You guy will never leave even if you want him to. Here are the ‘nuggets of wisdom’
1.You man wants to feel like your hero
In a clear statement, one man said, “We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. Not pushing a mail cart and asking you if we can buy sugar cereal. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way.”
But nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel beautiful. And of course, you want to feel invincible too and we want to feel beautiful as well. But for men, our invincible is your
2. They want Acceptance
Remember the song ‘take me as I am ‘by Wyclef Jean Feat Sharissa? That is exactly what men want. Lady, take your man as he is and not what he could be.
The men NEED to feel that when they stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five-year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love them anyway.
Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.
Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behaviour and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.
3. They don’t want to be left in the dark
We are not talking
So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid.
“The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. You’re not doing life with us. You’re doing life around us. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us. This creates a crowbar, not glue,” confesses a man.
Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship.
“No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know how you feel.”
4. Blinders s3x
There’s s3x. Then there’s blinders s3x, the kind of s3x that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world.
Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. We’re visual creatures. We notice shiny things. But blinder s3x gets us to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”
Blinders sex isn’t just good s3x. It’s an authentic deep connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces an experience that cannot happen with anyone else. That’s why it gives us blinders. Blinders s3x is about connection. Not s3x.
5. The C-word… yes at it again, it’s not a guessing game
Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. Men want you to communicate directly.
Dudes don’t get clues. They need things spelt out.
“We are logical creatures. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.”
For many men, communication is not our speciality. Men pull from a logic place while women pull from an emotional place.
6. Sweat
There’s nothing more fulfilling than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages men to work on themselves as well. They get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked.
Now, if both of you do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot. We need to sweat and we would like it if you joined us.
7. Man dates
There is something men get from there friends (male friends) that we just can’t get from you. And there’s nothing you can do to give them that because it’s a relationship dynamic, a comradery that men have with men.
You have the same when you go dancing with your girlfriends. And it doesn’t mean we want to be with them more. It’s apples and oranges. It fulfils a different part of us.
This kind of relationship refuels the men and builds more desire to be with you. It’s life balance. It’s also going to sharpen and make them better.
8. The boys want to have there own lives
They can’t directly tell you, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? Which they actually mean exactly that, ‘get your own thing going’. Your own set of friends, activities, and passions.
Of course, they want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like them to be a part of, but having your own identity is really important for you and your man.
“Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own
Yes, these are the opinions of men all over the world put together. So ladies get yourself started, the relationship bus has arrived and you must make the best of it.