6 Things you Should Never Discuss During Sex

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Pillow talk…To Zayn Malik and most of us it can be our enemy or ally. It is a place that can be so pure, so dirty, so raw all at the same time.

More often than not, I have heard guys and girls lament about their partner’s pillow talk. Depending on what you say or not say, pillow talk can be your enemy or ally.

I am here to ensure the latter.

Here are the six things you are not supposed to talk about immediately after sex:

1.Don’t Give Notes on their Performance

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During and immediately after sex, you should never give your partner notes on their performance unless it is in an helpful and genuine way. Otherwise, hold off on rating their performance. One’s moves are not measured on a 1-10 scale and neither are yours. Criticizing one’s performance will only lead to intimacy shutdown. Criticism is also likely to hinder vulnerability between you in the future.

2.Don’t Bring up Past Sexual Experiences

It is not the time to compare oranges to apples.

It is highly advisable to talk about sexual history with your partner. However, it is not advisable to talk about your ex during or immediately after sex. The term ‘my ex’ should never be uttered in the bedroom.

3. Never use Sex as a Commodity

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During or immediately after sex isn’t the time to talk them into agreeing to do something they previously opposed.

If they were not ready to meet your friends or family before sex, they are not going to be ready to meet them 60 minutes after sex.

Give them time.

4: Don’t ask them for Lessons.

You should never ask your partner where they learned to do ‘that thing’ that you loved.

They is no right answer to this.

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This simply goes back to the rule about bringing up your exes. This is like asking ‘Does this make me look fat?’ Trust me, nothing good ever comes from this.

5. Don’t DTR.

For some of you, DTR is Define the Relationship.

By now, everybody should be aware that sex does not necessarily equate to commitment to someone.

It is crucial to be on the same page about the relationship. Save the DTR talk for some other time to avoid insincere answers.

6. Don’t Comment on their Body.

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Please, for the love of effing, do not use this time to tell your partner to go back to the gym. They have just been intimate with you and doing anything other than expressing appreciation and admiration for their body is prohibited.

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