Choosing to start a relationship with the girl you’ve got your heart set on is a big decision, but also one that opens the door to many exciting possibilities. Because of the emotional investment involved with any serious relationship, it goes without saying that you’ll want to choose your girlfriend carefully.
Seeking Out Positive Traits
Choose a girl you like to be around – above all.
This may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s something all too many forget! Though almost every relationship will have difficult patches, relationships should bring happiness to both partners (most of the time). Your girlfriend should be someone that you know can bring out positive emotions in you.
Ask yourself the following questions:
Can I be myself around this person, or do I have to put up a “nice” front?
Is this someone I naturally enjoy talking to?
Do we seem to enjoy the time we spend together?
Choose a girlfriend who demonstrates self-respect.
We all know how the old saying goes: “You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself.” Heed this advice – pick a girlfriend who loves herself and has a healthy self-image. Such girls are likely to be emotionally stable and have reasonable, realistic priorities that are compatible with a relationship.
How do you know if a girl loves herself? Usually, a person with a healthy amount of self-respect will have some (if not all) of the following qualities:
Proper hygiene habits
Confidence in her own abilities
A relaxed, genuine demeanor
An ability to find humor in herself without being overly self-deprecating
Prioritize emotional attraction, but don’t rule out physical attraction.
If you don’t feel a real emotional connection to your girlfriend, it doesn’t really matter how pretty she is – your relationship is going to be a dull one. You’ll want to choose a girlfriend primarily based on an emotional attraction, rather than a physical one.
Ask yourself: “Would I still want to be in a relationship with this girl if she got a rash on her face?” If so, you probably have an attraction that’s more than skin deep!
This being said, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with cherishing your S.O.’s beauty, so if you have an emotional connection with someone that you’re also physically attracted to, all the better! Physical attraction is certainly one ingredient in a healthy relationship – it’s just not the most important ingredient.